Dating a Vietnamese Girl for Idiots: The Ultimate Guide


Vietnamese girls are known as one of the most beautiful women in all of Southeast Asia. Men travel from all corners of the earth just to have the opportunity to fornicate with Vietnamese girls.

But let’s face it, most guys are clueless when it comes to women, especially women from a completely different culture and country.

Growing up, they might have received some well intended advice from a female, but in reality it didn’t work.

Or perhaps they watched one too many romance chick flicks, where the male protagonist spends two thirds of the movie chasing some broad that barely shows him an ounce of interest.

But then near the end of the movie, suddenly became so touched and overwhelmed with joy by his acts of love, that she fell in love with him.

Its time to wake up and smell the coffee because real life romance and dating doesn’t work out that way.

Add to this, cultural and language barriers and you’ve got yourself a recipe for disaster.

And if by some miracle the guy manages to score a date with a Vietnamese girl, he eventually ends up fumbling his chance and ruining all opportunities of seeing her ever again.

Vietnamese girl wearing zebra shirt

If your one of those guys that are eager to start having some success in your dating life with Vietnamese girls but somehow lack the cultural insight and knowledge when it comes to dating beautiful Vietnamese girls then this article is for you.

On today’s post called Dating a Vietnamese Girl for Idiots: The Ultimate Guide, I will go over in detail all of the key things you need to succeed with beautiful Vietnamese women such as:

  • What are Vietnamese girls like?
  • Where to meet cute Vietnamese girls
  • What city should you stay in
  • How to screen girls
  • First date basics
  • Subsequent dates
  • Hookup culture in Vietnam

What Are Vietnamese Girls Like?

Vietnamese girls epitomize femininity, and are as traditional as you can get. They are sweet and nurturing, and know how to put their own needs aside for the good of the family.

Nearly all Vietnamese girls were raised from a young age to aspire to raise and have a loving family. Family is everything to a Vietnamese girl.

Although westernization is slowly creeping its ugly head into Vietnam, you will still find that the majority of Vietnamese girls are more focused on locking down a guy and getting married rather than focusing on their careers.

Only a small minority of Viet girls have decided to put their own careers instead of raising a family.

As a result of this, they are paying the ultimate price for it, as they find their pool of suitors quickly dwindling as each year passes by them.

When dating, Vietnamese girls follow the man, and remain loyal by his side unless he has shown himself to be incapable of being a good provider for her and the family.

The everyday Vietnamese girl that you meet on the street will be courtesy and well mannered.

In addition, most Vietnamese girls are quite educated, especially the ones in the city. In Vietnamese culture, as with most Asian cultures, education is stressed a lot by parents.

Viet women can get quite clingy to the guy though, but that’s because its their way of showing that they care about you. It’s also socially accepted in the culture to be clingy.

In terms of physical attributes, your everyday Vietnamese girl will be short, slim, and petite. Some of them may even be curvy!

Vietnamese girl wearing yellow dress

Now when it comes to fashion and how they dress, Vietnamese girls that live in the city can be quite fashionable and well dressed. Forget t-shirts and sweat pants. Instead, you’ll be delighted to see them in heels and pretty dresses.

I would even argue that they are one the best dressed Southeast Asian girls in the region, maybe slightly behind Thais.

And once you throw in those beautiful áo dài dresses that they wear during tet, oh my goodness, good luck trying to concentrate on anything else!

Where to Meet Cute Vietnamese Girls


One of the easiest ways to meet Vietnamese girls here in Vietnam, short of being introduced girls through social circle is online.

There are close to a dozen different dating apps and websites here in Vietnam, however I have found the best results with the following dating websites and apps in Vietnam here.


A paid membership website with some of the highest quality Vietnamese girls that you will find anywhere online.

Most of the girls on the website are serious about dating and looking to date a guy with the intention of getting married later down the line.

You won’t see too much of that jerking guys around crap on VietnamCupid, whereby girls use guys to practice English or for attention that you often see on other dating apps like Tinder.

In addition, not a lot of men use it because it’s a paid membership, thereby reducing your competition for the girls significantly.

Furthermore, getting dates on it is really easy. Most girls on the site want to date foreigners, and speak some level of English.

Click here to signup for a membership and start dating Vietnamese girls today!


Quality isn’t as high as what you would find on VietnamCupid but they do offer you free swipes to match with girls. Expect to find a lot of time wasters, bots, and a lot more competition from men on Tinder.

If you don’t mind average quality, and don’t want to fork over money, then give Tinder a shot.


AsianDating is a sister site of VietnamCupid. You will find that the site is basically a mirror copy of VietnamCupid except populated with Asian girls from all over the world instead of just Vietnam.

The website doesn’t have nearly as much Vietnamese girls on it, as most of them flock to the VietnamCupid site instead, however, there are tonnes of Asian girls all over the world on it, especially in Asia.

Like VietnamCupid, expect to bombarded with messages from girls, especially when you first join the website.

Asiandating messages
My inbox after joining for 1 day

If your not particular about which type of Asian girl that you like, then AsianDating is a great alternative to VietnamCupid.

Click here to signup for an account now and start chatting with Asian girls.

Social Circle

It doesn’t get any easier than meeting girls through social circle here in Vietnam. When people find out that your from abroad, they will go out of their way to introduce girls to you.

Now whether or not the girl is of quality is another story.

Within a month of landing here in Vietnam, I was already introduced to several girls from family members or friends of my relatives.

It’s like shooting fish in a barrel. Your status is greatly elevated through social proof and people vouching for you.

People here in Vietnam love to play matchmaker.

Vietnamese girl wearing white ao dai

In addition, depending on who is introducing the girls to you, a lot of the times they are vetted for you. What this means is that your chance of getting scammed is much lower.

However, still remain cautious about who your being introduced to here.

Day Game

This method of meeting girls is a lot harder than online dating and social circle, however, you will find an unlimited pool of beautiful Vietnamese girls everywhere you go.

Its like an all-you-can-eat buffet for meeting cute girls all over Vietnam.

Cafe’s, parks, malls, streets, you name it, there are bound to be Vietnamese girls there.

 girl picking plants

Two of the biggest challenges you will find with doing day game here in Vietnam is low English penetration levels and building sufficient comfort with the girl.

If your approaching girls outside of either district 1 or district 2, you better hope your Vietnamese is at least at a basic conversational level.

Most Vietnamese girls can’t speak English if their life depended on it.

Try to open a girl with English and half the time, they jet off away immediately upon hearing you speak.

The other half of the time, things get awkward real fast as she struggles to understand what the heck your trying to say.

Do yourself a favor and at least learn a few Vietnamese phrases.

Here’s a great beginner’s Vietnamese language course by Pimsleur, one of the leading language learning companies in the world. There are 16 audio lessons that will help improve your speaking and listening skills for everyday conversations.

I was able to start having a basic conversation with Vietnamese girls after only a month of using this program along with some other learning materials.

Pimsleur Vietnamese Conversational Course

To find out more about the best places to meet Vietnamese girls during the day click here.

Night Game

Night game is also another tool that you can use to meet Vietnamese girls.

If your staying at a major city here in Vietnam, there will be several skybars, and bars scattered all throughout the city.

I recommend that you avoid nightclubs here in Vietnam, as most of them cater to people that get overpriced tables and bottle service.

At clubs here in Vietnam, people mainly go there to have fun with their friends and get high off of drugs and helium balloons, rather then to meet guys.

In addition, a lot of clubs either have tiny dance floors or no dance floors at all.

Your going to have either be creative or be forced to approach mixed sets sitting down at random tables.

Not exactly the easiest feat to do.

Then you’ve got security guards that guard the booths and tables from outsiders.

It just makes things unnecessary complicated and difficult.

Instead, try going to a skybar or bar.

Music levels tend to be lower which means you won’t go deaf and can actually talk with the girl.

I recommend that you scout out a few places that are foreigner friendly if your Vietnamese is nonexistent. Girls there tend to be able to speak some English.

A word of warning though, a lot of pros go hunting for clients at these places, so keep your wits about you.

girl with tattoe
Prime wife material right?

Lastly, just know that Vietnamese girls that you meet through nightlife typically aren’t considered “good girls” by Vietnamese standards, and probably aren’t prime wife material.

It’s totally fine if your just looking for some short term flings though.

What City Should You Stay In

I recommend for quantity, quality of life, and ease of meeting girls to stay at one of the major cities here in Vietnam such as Ho Chi Minh City (Saigon), Hanoi, or Da Nang.

I know some guys preach going out to smaller cities and towns so that your foreigner value is elevated and you won’t have much competition.

However, If you choose to stay in the boonies, you will quickly find yourself bored within a matter of days and want to get the hell outta there.

Most cities have more than enough girls to keep you busy so that you don’t need to go to the country side to find a Vietnamese girlfriend.

Pick a city that has some modern day amenities such as shopping malls, nightlife, and some attractions and you’ll be set.

How to Screen Girls

Vietnamese girls can be quite cunning and deceptive when it comes to luring men into their traps.

Here are a few ways in which you can screen girls to make sure your not being taken advantage of:

  • If you see a girl dressed in a scantly clad dress, either with another girl or standing or sitting by herself at a bar or club, she’s most likely a hooker
  • If a girl starts asking you for money, she’s looking at making you her sugar daddy
  • If a girl brings up topics regarding your finances, she’s most likely trying to size you up to see how financially well off you are so that she can start extracting money from you
  • Be very careful of girls that you can bed really easily, especially if it happens on the first date
  • “Good” Vietnamese girls rarely if at all drink alcohol
  • Vietnamese girls that smoke are considered “bad” and from my experience in dealing with them, this tends to be true
  • Normal Vietnamese girls have curfews if they live with their family
  • Don’t date girls with broken relationships with their family
  • Tattoos on a Vietnamese girl is a big no no, especially excessive and overly attention grabbing tattoos such as those found on the neckline, back, thigh, or calf

Dating Culture in Vietnam

Here in Vietnam, the man is expected to be the breadwinner in the household.

What this means is that on the first few dates, your going to have to show her that your financially capable of taking care of her.

Paying for her on the first few dates should not be seen as a big deal.

If she’s nice or perhaps not a gold digger, she may offer to pay her half or cover some of the expenses on the date. But this isn’t a get out of jail free card to be a cheapskate.

When it comes to dating dynamics here, sexual polarity reigns supreme. Your masculine energy attracts and coexists with her feminine energy.

dating culture when it comes to dating a Vietnamese girl

As a man, your expected to be lead and make the decisions. She may be able to help provide some suggests but ultimately, you can’t be a clueless airhead when dating the local Vietnamese women here.

Girls love guys that act like a true gentlemen. This includes opening doors for her, walking on the outside of the road, and helping her move her motorbike, etc.

Lastly, public displays of affection are a big no-no here.

First Date Basics

Many guys tend to go overboard on the first date and try to impress the girl by wining and dining her.

As a result of this, she comes to expect it on future dates.

Also your gonna attract all the gold diggers that put up a fake “good girl” front.

For the first date, try to keep things as simple as possible.

A coffee or milk tea date is a very popular local choice for first dates.

Pick a venue that is close to your place or mutually convenient for the both of you.

Spend no more than 2 hours at the coffee date and then end it on a high note.

Simple, cheap, and stress free.

What more can you ask for?

Don’t linger around and spend 5-6 hours with her. She will get bored of you and your gonna eventually run out of things to talk about with her.

Having a date this long is already a bad move when your dating a western chick, but try doing this with a Vietnamese chick when there’s a huge language barrier and see how far it takes you.

Don’t even think about bringing her back to your place for some action on the first date.

It’s not gonna happen unless you stumbled upon a slut or a semi-pro/pro.

If you did well on the date, expect a text from her that night or within 1-2 days afterwards telling you how she enjoyed the date.

Congratulations, you didn’t screw up, and can now proceed to date #2.

BTW, as a foreigner your not expected to come pick her up for the first date. Don’t believe those lies that some Vietnamese girls make up to get you to pick up their lazy ass.

I’ve never encountered a problem with this except when I was dealing with a few gold diggers that wanted a free lunch and entertainment.

Most Vietnamese girls have motorbikes already and if they don’t, a grab or goviet ride is relatively cheap.

Since your already going to invest this much into her, you should let her do some investing of her own too. Thus raising her level of attraction towards you in the process.

Subsequent Dates

On subsequent dates, I recommend that you do 1-2 venue changes on the date to help build familiarity and speed up the perceived time that you’ve both known each other for.

This will help you finally get intimate with her much quicker rather then waiting until your wedding day to get laid.

If your happy having sexual abstinence until your wedding date then by all means…

An example of this might be meet for a bubble tea, then go for a walk, and finally having dinner somewhere.

Rinse and repeat this for a few dates (ie. at least 3 dates) and look for signs of when she is finally comfortable with you.

Once you notice she’s ready, you can invite her over for dinner or a movie, and finally make a move on her in the confines of a private space without prying eyes.

Hookup Culture in Vietnam

What hookup culture?

Conservatism is more like it!

It doesn’t exists here unless your dealing with the small percentage of sexually liberated girls or a semi-pro or pro.

Most of these girls have already slept with 99% of the expat population here in Vietnam and you’ll most likely end up being Eskimo brothers with your buddy.

You will lose a lot of girls if you try to get them to come over to your place on the first date.

Vietnamese girls will accuse you of being some sex starved crazed lunatic if you push for sex on the first date too hard.

Vietnamese girl on bed dating a vietnamese girl

Most girls expect to be dating the guy for a while before becoming intimate with him.

That’s fine, because you’ll be dating multiple girls at the same time while in the courtship phase.

Don’t just settle down with the first girl that shows you some slight interest.

You need to date around to see who is most compatible with you.

Once you’ve made up your mind, then you can become exclusive with her if you so choose to.


In this beginner’s guide to dating Vietnamese girls, we covered several topics such as:

  • What are Vietnamese girls like?
  • Where to meet cute Vietnamese girls
  • What city should you stay in
  • How to screen girls
  • First date basics
  • Subsequent dates
  • Hookup culture in Vietnam

After going through this article, you should now be armed with enough knowledge to hopefully start meeting Vietnamese girls and going out on dates.

If you would like more insight into dating Vietnamese girls then check out the articles below:

What is Vietnamese Dating Culture Like? A Helpful Guide

Should You Date a Vietnamese girl? Everything You Need to Know

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