They say men are from Mars and women are from Venus. This couldn’t be more true when it comes to the way we try to communicate interest with each other.
Men are very direct and overt while women on the other hand are much more subtle and covert.
This leads to a lot of confusion and mixed signals when men are trying to determine whether or not a girl is interested in him while the girl is left feeling disappointed that the man did not pick up on her signs of interest.
As much as I hate to admit it, It wasn’t always sunshine and rainbows for me neither. I used to be horrible at picking up women’s signals. In fact, I left a grave yard of missed opportunities because of my lack of an ability to tell when a girl was interested in me.
There used to be a cute Vietnamese girl that worked at a counter selling cold cuts and sausages at a mall near my house back when I was studying at university. She was petite, had very pale skin, and long straight dark hair. I remember that she always smiled at me when I ordered food and tried to strike up conversations with me.
Unfortunately for me, I couldn’t recognize the signals and just mistook it for her being friendly. Later on however, they closed up shop and I never saw her again. Thinking back to it now, I kind of want to kick myself for not asking her out as she clearly was interested in me.
Another time I was at a nightclub with a wing man. There was a cute girl with her friend. We had made eye contact a few times and I noticed she kept on making eye contact with me. However, I wasn’t completely sure if she would be receptive towards my approach.
My wing man on the other hand was screaming his lungs out, trying to tell me that the girl was interested in me and that I needed to quickly make a move on her or he would.
This was enough to convince me to go and make a move on her and as it turned out, he was right! The girl was absolutely smitten me and we were all over each other on the dance floor later that night. I would have missed out on this opportunity if it had not been for my wing man.
Over time I’ve learned to recognize these patterns and behaviors from girls, and for the most part, they are all the same, except for tiny cultural nuisances.
On today’s post, we will be discussing the many different ways on how to tell if a Vietnamese girl likes you. The following signs are present if a Vietnamese girl likes you:
- Hair Playing
- Laughing at Your Jokes
- Tries to Get Close to You
- Lingers Around You
- Tries to Get Your Attention
- Asking You a lot of Questions
- Tries to Keep the Conversation Going
- Touching You
- Sticking Her Chest Out
- Her Pupils Dilute
- Sustained Eye Contact
- Shyly Looks Away From You
- Open Body Language
- Tries to Relate and Bond With You
- Asks If You Have a Girlfriend
This is a classic and universal sign of interest. Nearly every single girl that has an attraction for you will play with their hair at some point in time. Now when I say play with their hair, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they will actually play with it, although that also does happen. What I mean is that she will touch it in some way. This may come in the form of her brushing her hair aside, adjusting her hair, or just twirling her fingers with her hair.
If you spot this from the girl and especially if her body language is open, then its pretty much a dead giveaway. However, you need to really pay attention though because sometimes it happens really quickly.
This one is usually another good indicator that she is interested in you. Think about it, she’s not gonna be flashing that smile to every person that she meets. Your giving her good emotions and causing her to smile unconsciously. Her smiling at you is telling you that she is comfortable around you and is happy to have your company.
Exception: You need to watch out for hired guns. Girls that are paid to greet customers and be friendly can often times confuse a lot of men. It’s best to look for other signs of interest in addition to her smiles if your dealing with an employee. But the best sure fire way to find out if she is interested in you is to ask her out.
Check out this article on how to do it here
She Laughs at Your Jokes
One of the easiest ways on how to tell if a Vietnamese woman likes you is to see if she is laughing at your jokes. Girls that are into you will laugh at a lot of your cheesy corny jokes regardless of how good or bad they are. You’ll know somethings up when no one else is laughing at your lame jokes but her.
She wants you to feel good and comfortable around her. Her laughing at your jokes is her way of trying to bond with you.
Girls that dig you like to come close to you. Sometimes they may even bump into you by accident just because of how close they come in contact with you. Sometimes they may pretend to be looking at something close by you like a statue or plant and other times they may pretend to be looking for some random thing, hoping that you will notice them.
I had a girl in my university class that was attracted to me and always looked for excuses to come very close to me, often times invading my personal space. When we would walk, sometimes she would accidentally bump into me because of how close she got to me.
Lingers Around You
Just like the point above, girls that like you tend to hover and linger around you, like a child following their mother.
This is deliberate. If you notice a girl always around you and lingering about, its a pretty good bet that she has feelings for you.
Trying to Get Your Attention
Girls that are attracted to you will often times make subtle attempts to try and get you to notice her.
Take for example: One time while I was on the subway train heading home, I saw two Asian girls standing close by me. They were giggling profusely and kept on looking in my direction. At that time I wasn’t thinking much about it, perhaps maybe just two friends having a good laugh over something. But then suddenly one of them lunged towards me and bumped into me. They were a good 2-3 feet away too. She looked at me and smiled and said excuse me.
Me being the bone head that I was at the time, did not realize what she was trying to do and did not capitalize on the opportunity. She was trying to get my attention yet I failed to recognize it.
Trying to get your attention may fall under a variety of things such as:
Raising Her Voice When Your Around
Did you ever notice that a particular girl is always just a little louder when she is around you?
She’s trying to get your attention and make you notice her.
Accidentally Bumping Into You
This one’s pretty straight forward. If there’s a lot of room around, yet she coincidentally pumped into you then this is a pretty good sign that she is trying to get you to notice her. My subway incident is a classic example of this.
Just as your about to come in close proximity towards her, she will “accidentally” drop her belongings on the ground. She is hoping that this gets your attention and that you will be a gentlemen and help her pick up her things.
Another sneaky and subtle technique that women love to employ to get a man’s attention.
Asking You a lot of Personal Questions
Once again, girls that are into you are often very curious about you. They will often ask you a lot of questions about you. Questions like these aren’t out of the ordinary:
What is your name?
What are you doing here in Vietnam?
How long are you staying?
How old are you?
What is your ethnicity?
Do you have a girlfriend?
Why don’t you have a girlfriend?
Are you married?
What are you doing now? (my personal favorite)
She’s trying to get to know you on a deeper level and bond with you. If you were confused on how to know if a girl likes you before, you shouldn’t be now with this obvious sign.
Why spend all that energy asking you these questions if she wasn’t digging you?
Tries to Keep the Conversation Going
This one goes hand in hand with the previous point. Girls that dig you will want as much of your attention as possible and keep on trying to maintain the conversation.
If you notice that the conversation is slowly starting to die down and then she re-engages you with some other questions or topics, then usually its a sign that she likes you and doesn’t want things to fizzle out yet.
Girls that aren’t into you won’t invest in the conversation and will just let it die down.
This one’s pretty obvious unless her profession requires her to come into contact with customers such as a doctor.
She’s trying to break the touch barrier and build familiarity and comfort with you. It’s also an invitation to touch her back.
You may see touching in the form of her placing her hand on your shoulder, arms, back, etc or it could even be a playful type of touch such as her hitting you if you tease her.
Sticking Her Chest Out
Some women when they are attracted to someone will tend to stick their chest outwards towards the man. You should notice an upright position with the shoulders leaned back and chest out. This is a sign that she is attracted to you.
Her Pupils Dilute
You will notice that when a girl is attracted to you, her pupils tend to dilute and get bigger. It’s a bit hard to tell at first but if you look carefully at her eyes, you will notice it. This is sometimes referred to as having doe eyes.
She has absolutely no control over this because its occurring unconsciously.
Look for sustained eye contact. With some girls they may smile at you while others just stare at you with no expression on their face. You may be thinking perhaps there is something wrong with you or there is something on your face. Nope! They are attracted to you and can’t take their eyes off of you.
Here is an example from an instance where this happened to me:
I was out on Nguyen Hue street one evening and made eye contact with a girl standing about 10 feet away from me with her group of friends. She had a nice cute smile on her face and just kept on locking eyes with me and smiling. Her eyes never deviated away from me as I kept on walking away from her. This was most definitely a clear sign of interest and an invitation to approach her.
There was another instance where I was walking by some alleyway with some busy street food stalls. There was a girl sitting by a table that was just staring at me while she had one finger in her mouth just like this photo here. Her eyes literally were glued on me yet she wasn’t smiling at all.
Normally girls that aren’t into you that make eye contact will quickly shift their eyes away and look in another direction.
Only girls that are attracted will maintain eye contact. What you need to do after you notice her maintaining a strong eye contact is to go over there and approach her.
Shy Look Away or Down
With some girls that are shy, you may notice that they will shyly look away from you if you make eye contact with them or they will look down when talking with you. They are showing classic signs of submission. Some of them may even get red in the face and suddenly become nervous and quiet in your company.
Open Body Language
If you notice that she is facing you, and her feet are pointed towards you, and her arms nor legs are not crossed, then this is a pretty good indicator of interest from her. She is making herself vulnerable towards you because subconsciously she is attracted to you.
If you notice her arms or legs are crossed then that’s not a good sign. She is trying to close herself off from you and has created a barrier between you guys.
Tries to Relate and Bond With You
This may come in the form of you stating something and then her telling you that she also sees matters in the same way or has the same interests as you.
You: I like to box and watch sports.
Her: Really? OMG! Me too. We have so much in common.
It doesn’t really matter whether or not she actually agrees or likes what your saying. She is trying to relate with you, hoping that it increases your attraction for her in the process.
Asking If You Have a Girlfriend
You’ll see this one a lot in Asian countries. She is trying to determine where she stands with you. Does she have a realistic shot with you or is it just a waste of her time.
This one is a little tricky. In Asian cultures, its perfectly acceptable for people to ask whether or not your single. Relatives, friends, and even strangers will often ask you this question which can make it confusing when a girl that you like is asking you this even though they may not like you.
One rule of thumb when trying to use this to look for an indicator of interest is to see if there are other signs of interest coming from the girl.
Is she smiling when she asks you this question?
Does she touch you?
Does she play with her hair while asking you this question?
You get the picture.
If the girl is asking you this question plus showing the other classic signs such as smiling at you, it’s almost a guaranteed that she is into you.
Proceed with caution if you don’t see the other signs of interest along with this question.
The more of these signs of interest that you get from the girl, the higher the chance that she is attracted to you.
You now have at your arsenal a very comprehensive list of clues on how to tell if a Vietnamese girl likes you. Don’t be a bone head like me and let these opportunities pass you by. You’ll regret it and kick yourself for not making a move, just like I had.
She’s given you the green light, now it’s your job to capitalize on it and make a move.
Well, what are you waiting for? Go get them boys!
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