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how to instantly become more attractive to Asian women


Asian women holding flowers

Asian Women nowadays have a lot more choices in who they can date compared to centuries ago.

Social circle, online dating, and boatloads of thirsty tourists eager to hit on anything that resembles a female are all options at her beck and call.

You now need to be bringing a lot more to the table than previously.

And while hitting the gym and gaining 20 lbs of muscle and dropping down to 10% bodyfat and having a six or seven-figure business would be great and catapult you right to the top of the food chain, these things take a while to achieve and require hard work.

But rather than remaining celibate for years working on these goals, I’ve come up with a list of ways in which you can instantly become more attractive towards Asian women, especially Vietnamese women, and start going out on dates today.

These are quick fixes that you can instantly apply today to up your value and appear more attractive to Asian females.

Now while applying this stuff won’t make you an overnight sensation or Rockstar, they will however, give you a little leg up in the dating game.

Here are the ways in which you can become more attractive to women.

1. Update Your Wardrobe

fat slob attracted to Asian women

It amazes me how so many men go abroad and dress like slobs.

Here’s the wardrobe of a typical guy that arrives in Southeast Asia:

  • Smelly dirty t-shirt with yellow sweat stains
  • Dirty cargo shorts
  • Flip flops or running shoes
sexpat hobo walking around without shoes on
Foreigner with zero fashion sense

If their goal was to try and repel women then they succeeded.

Now this doesn’t just apply to guys traveling abroad to Asia, I’ve seen more than plenty of men that dress like slobs back home as well.

Here’s the recipe for dressing like a bum back home:

  • T-shirt or tank top
  • Oversized jeans such as relaxed, loose, boot cut, or the god-awful tapered version of the boot cut that resembles pants that hippies wore back in the 70’s with the bottoms looking like holahoops. Those pants should be burned immediately!
  • Sneakers and dirty running shoes

Probably 90% of men wear a variation of the aforementioned clothes.

wear this to repeal Asian women: hippy jeans
These should be burned immediately!

If what I just mentioned sounds exactly like how you typically dress then here’s what you need to do instead.


When selecting shirts, always try to go for a fitted look. That means don’t get t-shirts that are 2 or 3 sizes too large for you.

The general rule of thumb is that If the shirt looks baggy then you need to downsize.

Avoid shirts that have crazy designs and fancy logos.

And for the love of God, please don’t wear any t-shirts that have pictures or logos from movies like Star Wars or teenage mutant ninja turtles.

Nothing screams I’m a video game basement-dwelling virgin nerd better than that.

If you’re going for t-shirts I would recommend you pick out time tested classics like crew neck t-shirts with solid colors like white, black, and grey.

These colors look great in almost anything and are great compliments for jackets and blazers as well.

Other shirts you might also want to consider are polos and dress shirts.


When selecting pants, you have a couple of options.

If your opting for jeans then I would recommend you go with either straight, slim straight, or slim. If you’re really skinny, you can even get away with skinny jeans.

I would avoid any jean style with tears and holes coming out of the jeans unless your relatively young (i.e. 20 years old). This isn’t the time to experiment and be bold with your fashion sense. Pick clothes that have been proven and time tested to look great on men.

If you’re in a warmer climate, you can substitute jeans with chinos and khakis as well. Those look great in warm weather.

And if you want to take things even further, slip on a pair of dress pants and trousers paired with a dress shirt. You’ll instantly stand out from all of the other buffoons out there.


For jackets, I recommend you spend a little money and pick up a sports jacket, blazer, or even a full suit if you can afford it.

For the best look, try to get a bespoke or made-to-measure jacket. These clothing will be custom made to fit your body perfectly.

These don’t cost an awful lot in Asia but instantly raises your value and shows the ladies that you know how to dress well.

Now you don’t need to go all out when it comes to changing your style and wardrobe, but you should aim to try and dress up slightly better than most of the other schmucks out there.

That means if they are wearing hippy jeans (yes, I’m going to start referring to people that wear tapered bootcut jeans as hippies) then opt for slim straight or slim jeans or better yet khakis.

If they are wearing a t-shirt, then wear a dress shirt or polo. You might want to even layer it with a jacket or a t-shirt underneath to give you that extra depth.

If guys are wearing dress shirts, then wear a blazer with a dress shirt.

You get the idea.

With these tips in mind, you’ll instantly dress better than 80% of men out there and elevate your value.

2. Wear Better Shoes

They say your shoes are one of the very first things that females look at when they meet you.

You don’t want to give off the wrong impression that you’re a lazy bum at home, do you?

I used to get so many compliments on my shoes when I started to up my fashion sense.

While my buddies were decked out in 5-year-old dirty reeboks, I was sporting a brand new pair of wingtips or oxfords.

Who do you think instantly stood out?

Here’s a general rule of thumb: wear the proper shoes for the occasion.

This means you leave the dirty gym sneakers at home when you’re out on a date with a woman or going to party with friends.

The gym shoes are only meant to be used at the gym, no-where else!

Likewise, when on a date you should be wearing a nice pair of dress shoes such as cap toe, wing tips, oxfords, monk straps, loafters, etc.

You should also consider purchasing a pair of casual shoes that you wear for your day to day activities such as slip-ons, boat shoes, boots, dress-sneakers, etc.

Now if you’ve implemented this strategy correctly, pretty soon you should start noticing compliments from females regarding your great taste in shoes.

If your closet consists mainly of running shoes well then now is the time to go pay a visit to your local shoe store and pick up some new shoes.

3. Start Wearing Cologne

Make no mistake, cologne when used right can be quite powerful for attracting females.

Previous research studies have demonstrated that females rely more heavily on their sense of smell when selecting mates and can be much more easily aroused through smell.

I get compliments all the time from females that are in close vicinity to me telling me how great I smell or asking me what type of cologne I have on.

Not only is it great for raising your attraction for the opposite sex, but it also boosts your self-confidence, not to mention making you smell fabulous.

Where a lot of men go wrong with a cologne is slapping on a tonne of cologne onto their bodies which makes it extremely overpowering for anyone close to them.

I suspect this also has to do with the fact that a lot of men don’t bathe on a regular basis and thus are using this to drench out the foul smell of their body odor.

B.O + a tonne of cologne = people running to the bathroom to barf

But there’s more to just putting on any cologne and calling it a day.

There’s an actual art to picking out the right cologne for your body based on your body chemistry.

Rather than listening to what the salesperson wants you to pick up so that they can reach their monthly sales quota, you should try out several different kinds of cologne on your skin and see how it smells.

Some of my all-time favorite colognes include:

  • Acqua Di Gio by Giorgio: a nice light and citrusy cologne that is worn during the day time
  • Mont Blanc Legend: a stronger masculine great smelling evening fragrance perfect for dates
  • Creed Aventus: a great masculine fruity and rich cologne that tends to last for quite a while

Colognes typically have different layers called notes to their smell and change as one note clears.

You may start off with a nice fruity type of smell but after 2-3 hours later, you might find a more robust and flowery type of smell, followed lastly by a woodier and moss-like smell several hours later.

When spraying cologne, you should spray it to areas that typically produce a lot of heat where blood flow occurs in high volume such as on your wrist, or your neck. The heat helps the cologne release its fragrance and gives the cologne its smell.

Now don’t go overboard with the spraying, just somewhere between 1-3 sprays should be enough.

1 on each wrist and 1 on your neck is more than plenty.

After you’ve selected the perfect cologne based on your body chemistry, get ready to start receiving compliments from people or catching more attention from females.

In addition, you may also want to consider purchasing a different scent for different times of the day such as for the morning/afternoon and one for the evening.

Evening scents tend to be much stronger and bolder.

4. Groom and Take Care of Your Skin and Body

human sasquatch
The human Sasquatch

For some weird reason, nowadays in the west, it’s become fashionable to not groom oneself and look like a caveman.

This includes things like:

  • Having a giant beard and resembling a lumberjack
  • Having hairs sticking out of their nostrils
  • Having unibrows
  • Uncut nails
  • Having a hairy body and chest

Some of these guys when you mention grooming and taking better care of themselves scuff at that idea and instead insist it’s masculine to continue looking like a Neanderthal.

The problem with this is that most Asian women consider this unattractive.

Asian women for the most part, do not like men that have beards and instead prefer a clean-cut look.

That means you better start trimming and shaving off all of that extra hair on your face.

Now if you happen to have a chest full of hair and look like a Sasquatch, it’s time to go visit a waxing clinic.

And for crying out loud, would you please cut and trim those god damn fingernails and toenails for a change?

Lastly, you may want to purchase some skin care products such as a face wash and Moisturizer.

This helps keep your skin looking smooth, clear, and bright, subtracting ages from your skin and making you look like a younger guy overall.

I personally use Derma-nu for men. It includes a face and body wash, anti-aging facial moisturizer, and exfoliating facial scrub.

Maintaining regular care and grooming for your appearance will do wonders for raising your attractiveness level.

5. Stand Up Straight and Tall

Believe it or not but posture plays a huge role when it comes to appearing attractive towards the opposite sex.

When you stand up nice and upright with your shoulders pulled back, you appear more dominant compared to others.

This in turn signals to females that you are a strong candidate for mating and possess strong genes which makes you more attractive to the opposite sex.

If you normally walk with a slouched posture with your shoulders sticking forward and your head looking down, try this instead.

Imagine there is a string that has been attached to the center of your body and runs all the way up to the top of your head.

Now imagine someone pulling on that string and straightening your posture like a puppet on strings.

Pull your shoulders back and look straight ahead. This will help keep your body nice and upright and instantly make your non-verbal body language appear more dominant.

This article was originally published on Vietkieudating.

6. Have a Confident Walk

Have you ever been outside and then observed someone walk by with such grace and confidence that it just stopped you right in your tracks and made you observe their walk?

According to research, having a confident walk can play a big role in how attractive you are to the opposite sex.

You can tell a lot about someone by the way they walk.

If you see someone looking down and walking slowly with a rounded back, how would you classify that person?

Not confident, has some possible self-esteem issues, having a bad day perhaps?

What about someone walking at a medium pace with their chest puffed up and their head looking directly ahead with a medium sway to their legs as they walk?

Probably someone that is confident and sure of themselves.

Because women can easily size a guy up by his non-verbal cues such as the way he walks, you want to appear confident in how you walk to show dominance.

I want you right now to go record yourself walking naturally somewhere outside using your phone or a camera and then see how you walk.

Do you naturally walk with a slouched posture where your head leans forward and looks down with your spine rounded?

Do you naturally walk with your pelvis sticking out and your head and back leaned slightly back?

Or do you walk nice and straight with your chest up and head held up high?

If you fall under any of the categories besides the last one well then, you got some practicing to do.

Luckily this is a very easy fix.

Here’s how to develop a confident walk:

  • Walk slowly and not rushed. A rushed person is not attractive whereas a relaxed person emits confidence.
  • Have your chest sticking up but don’t go overboard with it. You don’t want to walk around like one of those meathead bodybuilders who are trying to show off their pecs.
  • Look straight ahead
  • Have your legs and thighs spaced apart about shoulder-width or slightly more when your walking
  • Let your arms sway side to side
  • Have a bit of shoulder swagger as you walk.
  • Maintain a straight back that isn’t rounded. You don’t want to look like a hunchback. Pull your shoulders back and keep your back straight while being relaxed.

To give you an idea of this, go watch a video of how male models walk on the catwalk.

They look directly ahead, have a bit of sway to their arm movements, have a bit of a distance between their legs, and all have a straight back when walking.

This is what you want to adopt.

Now you probably will find it weird at first and uncomfortable making these changes because you’ve been used to your gait for many years now, however I urge you to stick to it.

Eventually, you’ll naturally adopt a more upright and confident walk.

Nowadays whenever I walk, I naturally have a more confident and dominant walk that takes up more space and this sometimes attracts attention from females.

But it wasn’t always like this and took a while for me to do this subconsciously. And it will take you some time as well, but it’s well worth the effort.

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    • Reply
      Paul Conner
      May 14, 2020 at 2:49 pm

      Want to impress an Asian woman, (particularly SE Asian and filipinas ) just show her a wallet full of Euros or dollars, trust me works every time. And no, I am not some sex tourist but a CEO now newly retired after 20 years an employer in the region.
      I expect after covid-19 that the world’s economy will be in the shit for the next 5 years at least, so you are likely to see a huge rise in available women across the board in many countries, not just Asia.

      • Reply
        May 14, 2020 at 3:02 pm

        I actually think countries in Asia will come out a lot better from the covid-19 situation. Vietnam is doing quite well for itself.

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